What to Do When The Fair Isn’t Fair

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By Karen Waite

If you live in the Midwest, you may have noticed that it's county fair season…that age old bastion of tradition, education (intentional and otherwise), drama, intrigue, teen romance, and corn dogs.  Don't get me wrong, I love county fairs and 4-H (which often go hand in hand).  Both made me who I am, made me a better horseman, and I'm convinced that in the long run it made me a better human. My first real successes (after potty training, learning to walk, and using a fork as a tool not a weapon) came from The 4-H Fair experience.  The first time someone handed me a ribbon and a trophy, I was HOOKED.    By golly, I was GOOD at something!  (I can't say that I knew what that something was, but they handed me a trophy, and people were smiling and congratulating me, so I obviously was really good, right?  RIGHT?! Ok, maybe, maybe not.  Read 

Losing Doesn't Mean You're Bad (and Winning Doesn't Mean You're Good)

 if you're confused.

After that first win, I wanted MORE winning. My entire summer, no, my entire YEAR revolved around "The Fair",  wanting to win my classes, and qualify for the State 4-H Horse Show.  If I had the right clothes, saddle, bridle, and halter, I'd win.  If I figured out  "what judges preferred" and what little details would set me apart from the rest, I would surely win.  Do I look back to back?  Look back after I back?  Look back EVER?   (Hey, it was the 80s).  Do I watch the pivot foot?  Band the mane?  We agonized over these little details for DAYS.  (Which come to think of it, hasn't really changed much.  We just do it on Facebook now.)

Then there were Fair politics.  If everyone followed "the exact same rules, and no one ever had spoken to the judges, or made eye contact with them 6 months prior at the grocery store, all would be "fair at The Fair", and then I'd win. If  I wanted it more than anyone else, I'd be a good competitor and I'd win.    As you may have noticed, everything I've mentioned so far was nothing I had any control of, which made the days I didn't win pretty tough, confusing, and left me looking for reason why…because frankly, I didn't always know.  Or maybe I didn't listen to those who tried to tell me.  So it logically followed  (in my 14-19 year old mind) that if I didn't win, then clearly, someone had paid a zillion dollars for their horse, had 15 professional trainers, and never, EVER did their own work.  Things were NOT always fair at The Fair…and sometimes things got out of hand.

It was only about 30 years of showing and judging horses later that I realized one important fact: It's not enough to want to win, and wins aren't driven by outside factors.  You've just got to do the work to win.  But how? Here are 5 tips for Working to Win at The Fair (or anywhere else.)

1.  Take Your Eyes Off the Prize

I don't know who developed the "keep your eyes on the prize" concept, but it can go away anytime.  Yes, you can tuck it away in the back of your mind as a motivator, but it can't be your primary focus all of the time.  You've got work to do, and focusing exclusively on external rewards rather than personal growth brings with it a variety of unhelpful issues that don't guarantee success, may actually even sabotage it.  For more on that, read Carol Dweck's book

Mindset

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If you're short on time, just keep reading this (for now.)

2.  Learn What's Required to Win

If you wanted to learn to perform brain surgery, would you ask your friends, or the guy at the gas station, or on Facebook?  Of course NOT.   You'd get help from professionals who either make their living performing brain surgery, or at minimum, people who have been doing it successfully for years.  This could be a professional riding instructor, a horse trainer, or it could be a 4-H leader who really knows their stuff.  It could be a judge who actually knows what judges are looking for, and how to evaluate and score specific classes.  In many ways, I wish that amateur competitors could give lessons without penalty, but in the stock horse world, they can't without risking their amateur status.  Off season clinics, participation on (or coaching) judging teams, all of these things help you learn what's required to win…and how else are kids supposed to learn other than by getting (some) help from others?

3.  DO What's Required to Win

Practice, copy your own patterns, develop the motor skills and muscle memory that riding and showing requires, and once you've done that, learn more about pattern strategy.  It won't happen overnight, but if you don't give up, and you have the right attitude and help, it will happen eventually.  If you play your cards right, you may even realize that these are the things that fuel a lifetime of riding and showing.  Parents and other adults can also help by looking at horse showing as a marathon, not a sprint. Not so much an"one time deal", but rather an ongoing process.  The Fair Frenzy is diminished a bit if it's "just another horse show" in a series.  And that can dial back the emotion that sometimes causes problems.  Plus you have control over what you do yourself.

4.  Video Your Classes

Have some one video your classes and watch them w

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looking for areas to improve.  You may want to talk them through with the folks mentioned above, to help you learn what is good, and what could be better.  Then do those things. (Note: This is true even if you just had the ride of your life.)

5.  Repeat Steps 1-4 As Necessary…

As I said in the beginning, I love county fairs.     They are a big part of who I am, and why I owe 4-H so much.  For some people, The Fair is their Congress, their US Nationals, and World Show, all rolled into one and as a result, tensions run high.  I also recognize, that sometimes people at The Fair  are in the process of learning about showing horses, and when they don't understand why things happen they way they do, they make up crazy things

to explain it,

or blame their lack of success on things they can't control.  But I can say for certain that we learn the most when things aren't fair at the Fair, and that makes it a win.

When is Zero Greater Than Sixty-Five?

By Karen Waite

It would appear I’ve lost the ability to count to 2.  Or 3.  Or at all.  While there is every reason to think this is a temporary situation, it doesn’t make it any less annoying, especially when you’re showing a Reining horse and you’re actually a pretty competitive person.  If you spin the wrong number of times, you’re off pattern, disqualified, Penalty score zeroed.  Peace OUT.  But sometimes a zero beats a 65…and I’m sure you’re thinking “Wow.  She really can’t count.”.  I’ll explain.File Jul 23, 4 30 21 PM.jpegPhoto credit: Kristy Stecker

While it may look easy on TV, Reining is actually anything BUT easy.  Especially if you’ve spent your entire life riding horses who were supposed to go sort of slow(ish). There are lots of things to change…using your legs once again becomes a form of encouragement (or lead changes), as opposed to a braking mechanism.  But it’s not just the physical motor skills that need to change, it’s the mental skills as well.  From a Sport Psychology/self-talk perspective, I’ve spent years telling myself to “slow down, relax, think through the next element, relax, focus, relax…”  so much so that’s it’s second nature.  And yes, all of that is handy in the Reining pen, too, but something was missing…

This entire show season, I’ve been working to find that missing “thing”.  It’s a little bit of energy, a little bit of “let go of her”, and to be honest, I was getting a bit frustrated with the search.  I mean, it felt like I WAS going fast.  It felt like I WAS letting her go, at least until I looked at the videos and realized that no.  My runs were still pretty “Horsemanshippy”, with about a 50% success rate,  given that I’ve been DQ-ing half the time, purely as a result of miscounting, or misdirecting spins.  Sigh.  Good thing that Grit Isn’t Just For Chickens.

At a recent show, I was holding to my usual “50% success rate” program.  I completed a run, managed to stay on pattern, and marked a 65.  It was correct, but in all honesty the best description I could give was “meh”.  My next run, I was planning to spark it up a bit.  So I did…and spun an extra time, once again “earning” a 0.  UGH.  NOOOOOO.  Not AGAIN!!!  At this rate, I’ll be a Green Reiner FOREVER!  A veritable evergreen…the pine tree of Reining!  (At least that’s how it feels.)

I always find it interesting when news people interview athletes and ask them what they were thinking at a critical moment.  In all honesty, at that level, they probably were only thinking strategy if anything, because muscle memory is an actual thing. Once you get the motor skills down, it’s (almost) all mental.  But given that I’m a beginner in this sport, I’m still thinking an awful lot… ”Hands here, legs here, no, not there, HERE.  Cue for this now.  Wait..WHAT?  Where are we?  Was that two?”…the chatter almost never stops.  But part way through that extra spin, when I realized that yes, it WAS in fact EXTRA, a switch went off in my head.  I distinctly remember thinking “Well, you’ve got a set of circles, a figure eight, some roll backs, and a stop to go.  You may as well ACTUALLY GO, DINGBAT, GO!  What have you got to lose?  You’ve already blown it.”   So I did.  And had the most fun I’ve ever had while DQing.  Actually, it felt better than some Showmanship and rail classes that I actually DID win.   I came out of the pen happy and feeling like I had ACTUALLY accomplished something.  Much more so than the accurate yet boring, “meh” 65 run.  And I didn’t die, or even sustain serious injury.  In fact, I got better.

The next run I marked a personal best 68.  And that never would have happened without that 0.  Sure, there are plenty of things that I could have done better in that 68 run (obviously), but it was that 0 that made the 68 possible.  So sometimes, a zero really DOES beat a 65.

 

Grit Isn’t Just For Chickens

By Karen L. Waite, Ph. D.

If you are a friend on my personal Facebook page, I’m sure at some point you’ve thought “Why does this insufferable woman post so much?  And why does she always post about her FAILURES?  Who DOES that?”  Great news.  I’m hoping to clear that up for you with this post.  But first…one of my “failures” (in quotes because “failure” is a relative term.   I was on the horse, I stayed on the horse, and was in the pen, so…).  On this particular occasion, we started one set of spins with a little too much enthusiasm, and then V got VERY excited about her fancy lead changes so she threw in an extra for good measure.  Plus I’m still getting used to the idea of just “letting her go”.  Anything that resembles speed feels like super turbo to me.

Back to the matter at hand, there are two main reasons for my either daily, or several times daily, Seinfeld-esque posts about “nothing”.  First, my almost 83 year-old mother can’t get out quite as much as she once did, but she can use Facebook.  She loves people watching, and now she can do it from her chair!  Facebook is a great way for her to keep up with what’s happening and I want her to know what’s going on…and even more importantly, when she “Likes” something I’ve posted, I know she’s ok.  The peace of mind that comes with that is priceless.

Second, Mark Zuckerberg says I can.  Facebook is my personal scrapbook, diary of daily events, or whatever else you want to call it.  Russian hacks not withstanding when I’m 83, my memories from 30 years ago will pop up in that delightful orange box, asking if I want to share them.  You betcha, I do, Mark Zuckerberg.

In addition to those two things, however, there is one additional reason I post so much about the good things, the bad things, and the totally mundane, ridiculous things.  I think that Facebook, and social media in general, lacks the authenticity and “realness” that makes up an actual life.   Success happens, failure happens, happiness happens and sometimes, very, very hard times happen.  I work with a fair number of youth and college age students, and sometimes even adults, and I try to be a good role model. (And yes, I fall down on this front consistently as well.) I want them to see that a person can have a pretty successful life full of things they enjoy, judging horse shows, being blessed to travel all over the country and even world, while at the same time being afraid of chickens, and forgetting which way or how many times to spin in a reining pattern.  Repeatedly.  And they can own all of it.  It’s 100% theirs.   Someday, they’ll realize that IRL (in real life, for those who don’t know), the journey to the success makes up a much larger and more interesting part of the actual success. Oh sure, your mom cares that you won, but honestly, If someone wins at a horse show, I’m MUCH more interested in the effort that went into it for weeks, months, or years prior.   How they fell down 7 times and got up 8.  What they had to overcome, and just how much grit they have.  That to me is much more interesting than the (nifty) cooler they won.

But what if you’re just not particularly gritty and you can’t possibly imagine that you’ll EVER be as successful as “those people” you see on Facebook?  What if grit is genetic, or you’re born with as much as you’ll ever have?  The good news is that grit isn’t just for chickens anymore!  Grit is an actual psychological skill that you can develop if you’re lacking.  There is an entire book about it, in fact.  You might want to check it out: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perserverance   Duckworth says of the high achievers she has studied “Apparently it was critically important-and not at all easy-to keep going after failure.  “Some people are great when things are going well, but they fall apart when they aren’t.”  This book shares accounts of those who learned to keep going, and in all honesty, that’s what sets them apart from others.  That’s why I post the good and the bad…a failure is just a step on the staircase.  And yes, I realize that in the big scheme of things, “failing” at a horse show is pretty small…but we learn to handle big things by surviving the small ones.

If you don’t have time to read an actual book, you can get the audio version and listen while you drive, clean stalls, or even while you work out.   And one day (probably before you’re 83), maybe Facebook will show you that memory of the day when your horse leaped into a spin in Green Reiner.  And hopefully by then you’ll have stuck with it long enough that your Green days are long behind you, “speed” is actually fast and maybe you’ll even be a Rookie by then!

 

Work Smarter AND Harder

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A lot has been said about Goal Setting. If you Google goal setting or SMART goals, you can spend weeks going through the 18, 800,000 hits, if you’ve got that kind if time.  And little wonder…it’s an important skill. It’s hard to accomplish much of anything worthwhile if you don’t set goals…and not just goals, but the right KINDS of goals. As an example, me saying that I want to meet and take a selfie with Ryan Reynolds is a relatively unattainable goal. As the sign says, “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” (Note: I found this image during the above-mentioned Google Search. You gotta love Google.)

SMART goals are certainly a better method of goal setting than wishing. As you may be aware, a SMART goal is Specific, Measureable, Agreed Upon (or Attainable), Relevant, and Time-sensitive. So again using Ryan as an example, a better goal would be “I will meet Ryan Reynolds and take one selfie when he is in town to film his next movie in May.” Now granted, this is probably equally unattainable, but it’s a better-written goal, which is the point. And it IS just a goal…it says nothing about the effort or strategy required to actually meet Ryan Reynolds. Nor does it say anything about what I’ll do if Ryan shows in town up and I DON’T MEET HIM! And that is really the point of this post. Sort of.

If I were Queen, SMART goals would actually be SMART-ER goals. Incidentally, if you search SMARTER goals in Google there are some variations on that theme as well, but not the version I’m thinking of. My SMART-ER goals are Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-sensitive, ETHICAL, and RESILIANT.

Like I said, there are many articles that detail the SMART part. If you want to review, try this reading this one (specific to horses) or this one (not specific to horses). But lets talk about ethics and resilience.

From an ethics perspective, essentially anyone can “win” through cheating. It’s a shortcut, it’s disrespectful, it doesn’t suggest ability, and frankly, it DOES suggest you don’t want to (or don’t know how to) put in the real work required for whatever it is you’re doing. You know you cheated, and I’d ask you…did you do it because you believed you couldn’t actually DO the hard work? I’ll bet that isn’t true. Did you do it because people are paying you to “win” and win quick? More likely, but that makes you a sell out, not a hero. You may “win” externally, but you should be left feeling a bit hollow inside…knowing you did unethical things to get to that “win”. Would you want that behavior on the front page of ________ (insert the horse or other website of your choice)? Probably not.

Frankly, a win through cheating is no real win at all. You may win the external hardware, and some accolades from the horse show groupies, but it isn’t much good for your internal, mental software. It’s far better to win the right way…with honor, with hard work, with respect for your animal or sport, and those around you. Those are the wins that are impressive. Anything else is weak.

The final thing to consider is resilience. Not surprisingly, I have a personal example to share. Last year, I set a goal to run the Disney Half Marathon before I turned 50 in January. I had 7 months to train for it, and while I wasn’t exactly in the best shape of my life, I was motivated. I trained with a friend for roughly 6 months…through super hot weather, cold weather, and rainy weather. In October, we ran a 10 mile “race”, and even though I was almost the last one to finish (I just said I’d run it, I didn’t say I’d run fast), I was convinced I’d be ready. And come January, I was. I rearranged my work schedule and left a rather important professional meeting early to support my friend Jessica, who had decided to run the 10K (6 miles) due to a nasty bout of tendonitis…and she did.

I did all the things I could think of to prepare for my race the next day…ate right, rested, drank plenty of water. I nursed a painful arthritic knee…but I was determined to complete the race, and I knew I would. Then, we attended a fundraising dinner the evening before, which also served as an inspirational event. At the conclusion of dinner, after being completely inspired, fired up and ready to GO it was announced that the Half-Marathon the next day was CANCELED. Yep. Not happening, due to possible lightning in the area.

While I totally understood why it was canceled, and while I was very glad I was not the organizer of the race, it was REALLY disappointing. Six months of training, and poof. Seemingly wasted. I did all the right things…I SET A SMART GOAL for heaven’s sake. And yet…not happening. Come to think of it, I had a similar experience at the last Quarter Horse Congress that I was eligible to compete in Novice Amateur Showmanship, but I wasn’t the lame one in that story. My equine side-kick was. A story for another day. Anyway, my birthday was later in the month, and honestly, I really just wanted to run around Disney.

I did what most people (should) do in such circumstances. I pouted for a while. I moped for a while. And then I started looking for the bright side. I started making plans. I appreciated all of the time I was able to spend with Jessica leading up to the race, as well as the fact that I could actually run that far (albeit slowly), then maybe I’d just change the goal to “Run a Half Marathon while I am 50. In other words, I showed some resilience:

re·sil·ience

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noun: resilience; plural noun: resiliences; noun: resiliency; plural noun: resiliencies

  1. 1. 
the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

Yes, I was disappointed. No, it didn’t seem fair. But I could wallow in those things, or I could choose to pull myself up, get out, and appreciate the fact that resilience was something I could fall back on when the SMART goal didn’t quite pan out.

Sometimes in the horse world, horses get sick, hurt, or don’t progress in training like we hoped they would. Sometimes they cost way too much money. Or judges don’t understand that we deserve to win because we’ve worked really hard. (Ok, they probably do understand, but only one person can win, so…), and sometimes we think that based on what Facebook would have us believe, when we set a goal, it just stands to reason that we’ll reach it. But that’s not true. Sometimes we reach the goal, and other times we don’t, and we have to just be glad that we prepared honestly and ethically, hopefully we enjoyed the process, and if we ultimately missed the mark, we showed resilience, got up, and tried again. Not surprisingly, its one more example of what horses teach us.

 

Runners Run and Writers Write

Get out of your box stallThrough the (short) history of this blog, some crazy things have happened…an episode of plagiarism, (maybe more than one), a neutral post about western pleasure that turned into an (unpleasant) viral post about dressage, and several other things I didn’t really see coming.  Of course, there have also been some really positive reactions, too.  People have said thank you, and have suggested topics, and have made me feel like the thing is worthwhile.  Which has been awesome.
I did find, however, that I’ve gotten slower and slower to write.  Sometimes it’s because I get busy, like everyone else, but mostly I think it’s because I’ve gotten too concerned about people’s reactions, one way or the other.  It’s a little like showing horses sometimes; it can become less about horses and more and comparison and who has the blingiest, most expensive whatsit, and the next thing you know (or 20 years later) it may not be all that fun.  You might have to work at finding the fun sometimes.  But people have to find that out on their own, and I sure don’t want to discourage others from taking that journey.
I initially started writing this blog because I like to write.  Sometimes I’m not even sure how I feel about a particular topic until I think it through and write about it…which is part of what gets me in trouble on Facebook, I guess.  Although I can get in trouble on Facebook for absolutely no reason at all.  Different story.  And honestly, sometimes when I write about something, I totally change my mind from what I thought it was I thought at the start.  Quite a few posts have never seen the light of day for that very reason.  Anyway, in addition I really want to try to help people consider and reconsider, and look at things from different perspectives. So, I’m getting back to it.
When I was younger, I thought that I might become a writer…and that never really left me.  With the development of technology, and blogging, it became easier to develop things that people might actually read…which isn’t a requirement of writing, but sometimes its part of the fun, just as sometimes competition is part of the fun in showing horses.  In order to really be a writer, you have to write…probably every day, by the looks of things.  I mean, Steven King writes every day, and he appears to be doing ok.
It’s true about everything, really.  In order to be a horseman, you have to work with horses on some level.  In order to be a runner, you have to run.  (Thankfully, you don’t have to run very fast…you just have to run.  Take it from me.). In fact, in  a few days I’m scheduled to run the Disney Half-Marathon, and my goal is to to finish before the finish line is taken down.  That still makes me a runner.  (Late Update…the race was canceled.  Great fodder for my next post, if nothing else.)
You have to put yourself out there without concern for others’ reactions, whether they be good OR bad.  So I’m getting out of my own box stall again…and writing.  And heck, maybe I’ll try Zumba again.

Don’t Hold a Grudge

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If you know anything about judging or scribing reining, western riding, or trail, you know that each individual maneuver is given a score ranging from -1 ½ to +1 ½ in half point increments. A -1 ½ represents an Extremely Poor maneuver…you know…the kind of thing that makes you wish you had located the nearest exit in case the horse appears to be headed for your lap.   On the other hand, a +1 ½ is an Excellent maneuver, which may be accompanied by the heavens opening, a chorus of angels, and a plate of chocolate chip cookies (still warm). Oddly enough, a 0 just means you were Correct. You did it right. It was fine, but no one is scared and there are no angels, and sadly, no cookies.

Each maneuver is scored separately, and just to shake things up a bit, each maneuver could also earn penalty points…even in the case of a positive maneuver score (WHAAAT?). For example, the horse takes a few steps into a spin, freezes up (earning a 2 point penalty), but then settles in and knocks out 4 of the best spins ever (there are those angels/cookies again). That horse should incur both the 2 point AND a plus on the maneuver. All of these penalties and maneuvers scores are added to 70 in the end, and that is your final score.

I learned how to score Reining from my friend Trevor Walton. He is an NRHA carded judge, has scribed some of the biggest Reining shows out there, and always puts horses first. Which makes him an Excellent, +1 ½, human…but I digress. One thing I always hear him saying when talking about scoring horses is this: ”don’t hold a grudge.”

What he means is…just because you score a horse a -1 on their spins does not mean that you can’t score them a +1 on their circles to the right if they earn it. Every maneuver is a new “ballgame” so to speak. A new opportunity to make a good impression, and to succeed. And even if you screw up one of them, it doesn’t mean that you can’t wake up those angels 30 seconds later. This is also why sometimes, when all you focus on is one maneuver, you may wonder why a horse that botched that particular issue goes on to win the class, when YOUR horse didn’t botch that maneuver. (Harumph). This scoring system is the reason why…you can always go on to do better next time, and the time after that. It’s about the pattern as a whole…not one piece of it.

Naturally, as with all things horse related, there are some pretty important life lessons to be found in this scoring system. If you screw up one phase of your life, there is always, always, another opportunity to do better. To plus your next maneuver. To score a 70 or better, thus making yourself above average.   And, there is always another horse show if you manage to DQ yourself completely. There is always the opportunity to apologize to a friend, to do something for someone else, to encourage someone…even a total stranger.

As a relevant and very current example, in many cases, this election cycle has brought out the worst in people. But if you think abut it, it’s one maneuver in a much larger pattern. Despite what we might want to think, the world probably won’t end if our preferred candidate doesn’t get elected. And our friends should still be our friends when this is over, no matter how many penalty points they have incurred with their “crazy, misguided, uniformed viewpoints” in the last year and a half. If they were our friends before, they really should still be our friends. We always have the opportunity to do better.

As usual, Trevor is right. Don’t hold a grudge.  And make it a +1 1/2 day!

Ride for the Brand

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Remember that time you went to the ER for that broken arm and thought “You know, I could really do a better job of setting this?”  Or when you took your car to the mechanic and thought,  “That’s not the way I would have fixed that carburetor.” (Note: It took spell check for me to properly spell carburetor.  Twice.) 

 Anyway, you haven’t?  Why not?  Probably because you aren’t trained in either of those fields so you went to an expert for their opinion.  So why do we struggle so much to accept the opinions of horse judges?  Does the fact that we have a horse automatically make us an expert in evaluating any and all breeds and disciplines?  I have driven a truck around the farm since I was 12…legally on the road since I was sixteen, but guess what?  I’m no expert.  The same can be said of horse judging, I think.

 When a judge obtains a judging card, more often than not they have gone through a process of proving themselves to a governing body.  They have taken written rulebook tests, apprentice judged, been interviewed, evaluated, and asked to jump through more hoops that one can possibly imagine.   And yet for some reason, when they step into a show pen, suddenly they don’t know WHAT they are doing…and everyone outside of the pen is an expert. 

 Of course, this varies substantially from place to place, and show to show.  The more educated horsemen become, the more they tend to understand the process of becoming a judge.  And similarly, from a judging perspective, the longer you judge, the more your skills develop and ideally the more you grasp the concept of “riding for the brand”.

So what does that mean?  Riding for the brand means understanding and supporting the mission of the organization you’re carded by and/or working to uphold that mission.  For example, I’ve had the opportunity to judge quite a few 4-H fairs this year…or at least more than is typical.  In a nutshell, what makes 4-H different than any other horse show is the educational component that goes along with the concept.  A 4-H (fair) horse show is NOT JUST ANOTHER HORSE SHOW.  It should be designed as a place for young people to show what they have learned, and to learn some more.  It should be a place for leaders and volunteers to support and admire what their young people have learned, and to learn some more themselves, to in turn help those kids going forward.  As they say, “Team work makes the dream work” and more often than not, judges are on your team.  Young people can (and hopefully DO) take those skills and show elsewhere, but on that day, at that fair, the focus should be on what has been learned AND rewarding accordingly in the form of prizes and all the other fun things that go with participation at a fair.

How can we do that?  Giving judges the opportunity to give reasons on the microphone is one way that can be achieved, and based on what I’ve heard, exhibitors actually DO appreciate that feedback, at least at certain times, places, and time frames.  To quote G.I. Joe “Knowing is half the battle.”  Yes, not every judge is conversationally gifted but if their heart is in the right place, and they really want to help, does that really matter so much?  No, we don’t want to make kids cry and hate the experience, but many judges started in 4-H and want to give back in some way.  Sometimes, judges may actually share the things that need improvement, which is the only way we can ever really improve (as the anti-participation ribbon movement is typically quick to remind us).   If we want a thriving and successful horse industry going forward, young people and their families deserve to at least have some information as to why they placed the way they did, and sometimes they may even need to hear the hard things (within reason), and maybe even the unsafe things. Yes, scribes and score sheets are valuable to this end, but sometimes clear and immediate feedback about a rider’s skill is even more valuable, and that information isn’t always represented in a ribbon or placing.   As I’ve said before,  “Losing doesn’t mean you’re bad (and winning doesn’t mean you’re good).”