When I started this blog, I figured I’d mostly write about showing horses, the horse industry, sports psychology and the like. And I’m sure that will be the primary focus…but “Out of the Box (Stall)” thinking isn’t limited to those topics actually, and besides, it’s my blog, so I can write whatever I want, right?
My first “real” post was about the tendency of some in the horse industry to just say whatever they feel like saying, wherever they want to say it, without regard for the consequences. To quote “Not being negative, just honest.” It’s true that we could use more civil behavior in the horse world at times, but this morning I was reminded that while there are some pretty mean and insecure people in the horse world, it is also the home of the very best the world has to offer.
The first thing I do in the morning (after letting the dogs out and making coffee, so I guess it’s the third thing ), is check my phone. In the past several months, the morning phone checking has been met with some absolutely heart breaking news. A former student loses her fiancé in a tragic freak accident during a storm, and now, a friend who is a horse judge has unexpectedly lost his son. There really are no words that can be said in either situation that will ease the pain at all…but fortunately, as challenging as horse people can be, when the chips are down and people need help, they rally, and they show love like no other community I’ve ever been a part of.
The first message was followed by about 10 more asking how they could help. And that continued throughout the day. People aren’t using social media to tear each other down, They’re using it to hold one another up. To share their love and support, to ask if “we can do something as a group”, to share service information, and to try to make sense of unspeakable tragedy.
We don’t usually find answers to the “why” question in these situations…I used to think that everything happened for a reason. But I don’t believe that anymore. I believe that things happen and then God helps us through them…often by using the very same people we were competing against, or upset with last week, or last month, or last year…and maybe we should try to remember that every day.